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Can Tiger Really Change?

Watching Tiger Woods televised apology has me doubting his sincerity.

-Kathy Campbell

Tiger Woods

Tiger Woods addressed the media — and the world today — in a televised speech that we have all been waiting for since his Thanksgiving night car crash and news of his cheating scandal broke.

In a long, prepared speech, Tiger, wearing a button-down shirt, dark jacket and a solemn expression, apologized, repeatedly saying things like “I’ve let you down personally and professionally” and “I know I have bitterly disappointed all of you and for all that I have done I am sorry.” These points were, of course, punctuated by a direct look to the camera.

Tiger — whose wife, Elin, was not present — looked tired, a little bloated, very serious, somewhat guarded, and to be honest, like a kid who’s been caught with his hand in the cookie jar and knows he has to say he’s sorry (but deep down knows he enjoyed those cookies). It reminded me a little of Governor Mark Sanford, who also got caught cheating, eventually got round to apologizing, and whose wife was also not present when he gave his public mea culpa.

I wasn’t moved by Tiger’s 13-minute speech. The setting was very orchestrated. Tiger stood at a podium, a typed speech in front of him. There were handpicked onlookers seated in front of him, including his mother, who alternately had her arms folded or hands clasped throughout his speech. Her, I felt sorry for.

There was no opportunity for a journalist to ask Tiger questions. (Imagine how different this speech would have been if they had… Or if he’d sat down with Barbara Walters or Oprah…) His delivery was emotionally restrained and he seemed somewhat uncomfortable, except for the times when he took aim at the media. Tiger said it angered him that people would fabricate stories about his wife beating him and stressed that there had never been an episode of domestic violence in his marriage. He also criticized the media for following his wife and kids.

“I don’t get to play by different rules,” Tiger said, but everything about this televised speech indicated otherwise to me. I doubt that Tiger even had a hand in writing his speech, so how could he really emotionally connect to the words he was saying?

Tiger admitted that he has been in treatment for 45 days and starting tomorrow, will leave for more treatment. He also said that he plans to return to golf one day, and didn’t rule out that happening this year.

Tiger also revealed that his failures had made him look at himself in a way that he never has before. I hope this is true. I also hope that through therapy he can break through the barriers that he has built up for himself over the years, get over his admitted sense of entitlement, look beyond the money and fame, and be the husband, father and role model that we all believed him to be.

But was today’s speech a step down the road to recovery and marital redemption or, as he has done throughout his career, was Tiger merely doing what was expected of him?

Tell us: What did you think of Tiger’s speech?

Kathy Campbell is BettyConfidential’s Executive Managing Editor.

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Candice
#1. Candice on 02/19/2010 - 12:33 pm (EST)
I don't think I'm falling for it. You're absolutely right that he probably had very little to do with writing that speech.
roxbury
#2. roxbury on 02/19/2010 - 12:55 pm (EST)
I felt sorry for his mother too. I also think he never said I was not upholding the values my parents taught me. There are stories that his father behaved just like he has behaved. U also thought this was a speech for his male fans who would think this was enough of an apology and would play with them better than with women.
danggirl
#3. danggirl on 02/19/2010 - 1:13 pm (EST)
Thank goodness Elin didn't appear with him. He doesn't deserve that.
jessica03
#4. jessica03 on 02/19/2010 - 3:59 pm (EST)
I don't think Tiger will ever change. Once a player, always a player. I just feel completely sorry for his wife. I do hope that therapy will at least make him a better person.
jessica03
#5. jessica03 on 02/19/2010 - 3:59 pm (EST)
I don't think Tiger will ever change. Once a player, always a player. I just feel completely sorry for his wife. I do hope that therapy will at least make him a better person.
surfcity
#6. surfcity on 02/19/2010 - 4:07 pm (EST)
ok, so I listened to his prepared statement. I don't get what the therapy and treatment are supposed to do for him.. Is it that hard to just be a good person?
He would have done better not to read from the script.
allets
#7. allets on 02/19/2010 - 4:58 pm (EST)
There is a passage in the Bible that says, "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone". As such, who are we to scrutnize what Tiger or anyone else does? Who are we to say whether he is sincere or not? Who are we to say he can not change?What is this issue with the media wanting to be there? What kind of dumb questions are they entitled to ask? His apology should be to his God and his wife. They are the only ones for which he should be seeking forgivness.
K S
#8. K S on 02/19/2010 - 5:43 pm (EST)
I have no reason to believe that Woods didn't write his speech. Do people doubt that he writes the personal statements on his website too?

@allets, Woods is a Buddhist, so who is "his God"? What's with the biblical reference?






lv2516
#9. lv2516 on 02/19/2010 - 7:04 pm (EST)
who are we to judge, none of us is perfect. why don't the prss and people like you look into your own mirror. I believed him and felt he was truly sorry and he was humble. get off his back already, enough you perfect idiots, get on with your life Tiger and the best of luck to you. Go forward and be true. Barbara Jensen
queenana
#10. queenana on 02/19/2010 - 7:25 pm (EST)
this truly is between God, elin & tiger. tiger was never an emotion-emiting machine...even at best. he has always been stone cold & somber in interviews...why should this one be any different. leopards cannot change their spots...this i know to be true of cheating men also. God bless & watch over the woods family & give them the strength they need to heal.

 


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